Transitions…

By Heena Mistry

What would you sacrifice to be happy? What would it take to make you pack up your life and move thousands of miles away? Sound like a familiar meme? Elizabeth Gilbert, popularized the so-called female mid-life crisis in her best -selling book, Eat, Pray, Love. The concept, now seemingly synonymous with middle class women of a certain age eschewing their privileged lives in search for meaning, has become somewhat of a joke in popular culture. The idea that someone would leave a comfortable life in favour of uncertainty is not one that is embraced by our society. We are stuck in the western paradigm of success, often defined by material things that do nothing to nourish a person’s soul. This is the place I found myself in more than a year ago, when I decided to leave a rewarding job as a human resources lawyer at a large Canadian bank, to move to the UK in search for adventure. Now, this might not seem like anything unusual if I was just out of university, but I had just turned 40 and had absolutely no clue as to what I wanted to do with the rest of my life. What I did know was that my voice had been drowned out by the cacophony of others who knew better, whose advice I had taken over the tingling in my gut that was telling me that the path I was on was not the path for me.

Without time travelling into the past, I think it’s important to understand why people, including myself do not listen to their instincts. A large part of it is that we are creatures that are molded by our family and society to favour stability and eschew taking risks. Having come from an immigrant family, my parents made it clear that going into a traditional profession was the key to success and happiness. Like so many others I followed this advice and ignored that gnawing feeling in the pit of my stomach that yearned to do something creative and unconventional. I stamped it down with such fury that there was this constant hole in my life that I could not fill no matter how many pretty things hung in my wardrobe.

Needless to say, that feeling unfulfilled in such an intrinsic way makes relationships more difficult as well. As clichés go, I fit them all, a modern woman chasing her career while her biological clock is ticking like a time bomb. It was after my last failed relationship that I decided that enough was enough, that no man or baby or job could satisfy the yearning in my soul. I asked my work for a leave of absence, rented out my flat and put my old life into storage. I had been saving money for a wedding that didn’t happen so I joked that I was taking a year off and using that money to marry myself.   My family and friends were taken by surprise, most were supportive but some could not understand why I would want to leave my established life for the unknown. But that’s the kicker, the idea of not knowing what was around the corner is what excited me. Rather than live each day like ground hog day, I had absolutely no idea what the next day would bring. I could re-invent myself, get outside my comfort zone and make mistakes without anyone judging me. And that is exactly what I did. I travelled for four months around Europe, seeing some spectacular sights and meeting incredible people. I volunteered with a youth agency in London and tried my hand at PR and project management. I then got a call from the London branch of the bank that I worked for with an offer of a contract. I got accepted into the LL.M. program at the London School of Economics and started taking courses. In the span of one year I had accomplished so much. That is not to say that I didn’t have any doubts , bouts of loneliness or feelings of fear. I had them all. What got me through the rough patches was knowing that each experience was helping me learn a little more about myself. Self-actualization is an iterative process, it happens a little bit at a time. Do I know what I want to be when I grow up? No. Am I on a journey of my choosing – absolutely.

Understanding the Impact of Your Words

By Lyndsay King

Have you ever wondered about the impact of your words? They obviously play a huge role on our emotional states, however, they also affect us physically and have a material effect on the world around us.

Dr. Masaru Emoto, a researcher, asked himself the question of how our words influence us on a material level? He conducted studies examining water molecules taken from different sources and studied the effect that different words directed at the water affected the structure and make-up of the water molecule its self. His findings astounded scientific communities of people all over the world. He was able to show that when water was exposed to words with positive meanings (like “soul”, “beauty”, “happiness”, “gratitude” or “love”), the molecule would be made of beautiful, symmetrically shaped crystals which look a lot like perfect little snowflakes. However, when the water was exposed to words with negative meanings (like “hate” or “kill”), the water reflected a chaotic structure, twisted and morphed, with no particular shape or symmetry.

What does this suggest? This study shows the importance that our words have on the world around us and on ourselves. It’s worth mentioning that the human body’s composition has a large percentage of water (between 60-80%), so when we express ourselves negatively, we are hurting not just our own bodies and the bodies of others. This also includes what we say in our minds to ourselves and towards others. What Emoto is proving is that our words are power, and literally manifest into matter-based reality. Genius.

The Science Behind Positive Thinking. These findings show that positive thinking and gratitude, when expressed in words, are much more beneficial for us then a negative thought process. Our inner states and ideas are most commonly expressed in words in the mind, our inner voice, so when we think negatively, talk negatively and focus on words that don’t have a positive meaning, it’s likely that this will affect us on more than one level. Emotionally, it makes us sad, angry or afraid, while it also seems to have an effect on our body, on other people and on the world around us.

“The Power of Love and Gratitude Made Visible by Masaru Emoto.”

Thank You Water Crystal
Thank You Emoto Water Crystal

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If you are depressed you are living in the past…

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3 Reasons You Should Adopt an Attitude of Gratitude

By Adam Toren, Contributing Author. Serial entrepreneur, mentor, investor and co-founder of YoungEntrepreneur.com. He is co-author, with his brother Matthew, of Kidpreneurs and Small Business, BIG Vision: Lessons on How to Dominate Your Market from Self-Made Entrepreneurs Who Did it Right (Wiley). He’s based in Phoenix, Arizona. Source: entrupreneuer.com.

Here are the three biggest reasons why you need a gratitude practice.

1. Gratitude shifts your mindset
For something to change in your life, one of two things has to happen: your life changes, or you do. Waiting for life to change is a pretty passive solution. When you’re stuck in a problem mentality you miss out on all the opportunities for solutions that are knocking on your door every day, simply because you don’t even hear them or see them.

Open your eyes to a gratitude practice and all of a sudden things start to fall into place for you and for your business. Being an entrepreneur means being proactive, not passive, so switch your mindset and see life change.

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Having Attitude Of Gratitude is High Energy

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By Lyndsay King

Building a strong foundation for success is grounded first in your general attitude towards life. Whether it be with your career, love, friends, family and life overall, the way you decide to see the world is the world you choose to live in. Yes, it’s the old glass half empty or half full saying, but there is actually something to it.

We create our reality. This could feel a bit like ripping off a band-aid stuck to your arm hair at first. The truth of what is being said here is not just a belief, but something you can apply to your life immediately. The saying goes something like this: change your perception and you change your world.

The band-aid rip is essentially the realisation that we are all responsible for our lives. Blame doesn’t really exist, and if there is something in your life that you don’t like, it’s somehow your fault, because you’ve brought it upon yourself. Yikes, I know, hard to understand at first. But hear me out here.

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